Thursday 29 October 2009

For a reason? You bet!

There is a very old saying in Kannada that says, 'Hall idhdhounige kadle illa, kadle sigounige hall illa'. It roughly translates to - 'A person wanting to eat nuts wouldn't have teeth for it whereas a person having teeth wouldn't wanna eat some'.

Its a situation, I'd say, mankind has been trying to grapple with ever since.... ever since when?

I'm very sure that each one of us, could definitely live a better life. I don't mean by standard or class or luxury, but by the way of thinking. Had this not been such an important aspect in our lives - the part of not being happy having what we have, we'd have not been living like this today.

A guy with a girlfriend would definitely tell people around him that a life without one is so much fun. It is not always true, with him or the other person. The other person would always want to have a girlfriend, and he simply cannot have one. (He may have many, it doesn't count!)

Problems galore. The easiest way to escape from problems. Few of us get involved in a few things that we shouldn't have been involved in and later attribute that to some invisible force that has created such a situation which has tightened its noose around the neck of the.... Man! Its just us! We create problems, we don't have, atleast, all or most of us do NOT have the expertise to get out of it. It is sad, but true.

As I type this, I remember another saying that said 'The grass is greener on the other side'. Now I realise how true these sayings are.

A person whom we don't know could sometimes teach us so much. I wouldn't have written this blog if not for an incident that happened today. I was waiting for my lab-mates at another lab, not mine, and this guy working at the lab called me in. We'd met earlier, but today, we discussed about work. What his work involves and the like. Frankly, I was disheartened because the work he did interested me and had I known before about the project, I probably could have done that. I was complaining about not having work, and how it feels to work, go to a lab, manage schedules just because you have work and so on. He was looking for something all the while. Finally, he said, "See, my work is so difficult because I don't find the apparatus I'm looking for right away. I've to search so much for it."!!
My argument was that he atleast has something to search for. :P

But what I understood from this is that we don't grip ourselves with what we're or what we've. What others do, what others have fancy us. As I was sitting in his lab, I wished I were there everyday and had that much work. Then another thought crossed my mind. I'd have probably wished for a day off from work then. Not having work would have looked greener then.

I don't know if I need to say that its a sick feeling people are incorporating into themselves when they could be happy, because if people don't feel jealousy, anger or frustration, I'd not classify them humans. Now, the extent of positivity in these feelings is an individual thing.

It was a lesson to myself. More so, an experience. I'd never expected him to say that. Had he told me that it was ok, and that is how it is, I'd not have learnt anything. His way of telling that the apparatus he was looking for was not available right then and that, he felt was a very difficult thing made me just smile and realise how foolish we really are.

We have every single thing in our own hands, but we don't look in the right direction.